Honesty is absolutely the best. I have always been a bit bewildered why anyone would want to spend so much time pretending, be it in a relationship or a job interview. I long ago came to the conclusion that my directness scares people off (this despite being many times simply "yes I would love to **** you, and be really close friends with you, but no I am not going to fall in love with you - if you are looking for The One, I am not it" which you would really think guys in general would appreciate LOL). However, I also came to the conclusion that this left me with the top 10% and that I have no interest in being involved with that 90% that can't handle me.
Since I've taken my polyamory to a more emotional level, the conversation now is "I think you're awesome and would love to spend time with you, but my offline time is so *very* limited right now!" LOL. Thank you Steve & the forums for getting me onto okcupid.com!! Great friendship and lover potential.
