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belugagirl · 01-07-2007, 06:56 AM

Leaf, is there a chance that your parents, themselves so jaded about life, are trying to "toughen you up" or keep you from getting your hopes up about life just to be--as they see it--inevitably shot down? Sounds like they see the world as a harsh place for everyone who's not rich. Maybe they feel responsible for making you see "how things are." Of course, that's not how things are, and you see that, but looking at it this way might help you feel that compassion for them instead of guilt when it's difficult to do so.

Also, they might be feeling left behind. You're having the life they couldn't manage to make for themselves. Like everyone else here, I'm impressed with your ability to overcome such emotional abuse. It's clear what abuse did to them, leading them to subject you to another round. But you have broken the cycle. And for that, I give you a great big cyber-pat on the back. Oh, what the heck: a great big electronic hug, too!

I have a feeling you will find the strength to persist in your own growth while enduring their attempts to drag you down long enough to get out on your own. Do you have plans to go to college?

01-07-2007, 06:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
belugagirl Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 59	Another possibility? Leaf, is there a chance that your parents, themselves so jaded about life, are trying to "toughen you up" or keep you from getting your hopes up about life just to be--as they see it--inevitably shot down? Sounds like they see the world as a harsh place for everyone who's not rich. Maybe they feel responsible for making you see "how things are." Of course, that's not how things are, and you see that, but looking at it this way might help you feel that compassion for them instead of guilt when it's difficult to do so. Also, they might be feeling left behind. You're having the life they couldn't manage to make for themselves. Like everyone else here, I'm impressed with your ability to overcome such emotional abuse. It's clear what abuse did to them, leading them to subject you to another round. But you have broken the cycle. And for that, I give you a great big cyber-pat on the back. Oh, what the heck: a great big electronic hug, too! I have a feeling you will find the strength to persist in your own growth while enduring their attempts to drag you down long enough to get out on your own. Do you have plans to go to college?