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Strongsloth · 01-22-2009, 03:58 AM

Hi

I am a polygamous male. I have two wives although just by informal agreement rather than registered marriage, which would be illegal. I have two children (5 years and 3) with the first wife and one with my second wife (approaching 1 month old).

Although both wives are aware of the situation and have given their consent there is a big problem. Unfortunately both insist that the situation must be kept a secret. Their main stated motive for this demand is negative treatment from their families and in each case I accept that they do have a good point.

On the other hand, the only way to conceal this arrangement from their families is to not mention it to anyone at all. Since that involves keeping my newly born child a secret from friends and family it is no longer a realistic way to operate.

Does anyone have a suggestion for how to handle this situation?

01-22-2009, 03:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
Strongsloth Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 8	Polygamy advice please Hi I am a polygamous male. I have two wives although just by informal agreement rather than registered marriage, which would be illegal. I have two children (5 years and 3) with the first wife and one with my second wife (approaching 1 month old). Although both wives are aware of the situation and have given their consent there is a big problem. Unfortunately both insist that the situation must be kept a secret. Their main stated motive for this demand is negative treatment from their families and in each case I accept that they do have a good point. On the other hand, the only way to conceal this arrangement from their families is to not mention it to anyone at all. Since that involves keeping my newly born child a secret from friends and family it is no longer a realistic way to operate. Does anyone have a suggestion for how to handle this situation?