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stayfly · 01-21-2009, 02:45 PM

you seem like an intelligent and articulate person so my guess is that you are just one or two skills away from having good social skills

here's three things to consider;

1. start around your interests and hobbies - what interests and hobbies do you have? are you able to talk about these interests and hobbies relatively well? if so, look for ways to incorporate your interests into your social life to help you get practice and build confidence

2. build your skill set - borrow some conversation skills books from your library or buy some from your bookstore. listen to other great communications and learn the mechanics of of what makes them communicate effectively.

3. focus on your state - manage your state so that you give yourself the best chance of success in this area. breathe, be relaxed, control your focus and be in your best social state.

let me know your thoughts on these and all the best

edit: speaking of books, here's one I found on Amazon that seems like it could be very helpful for you Amazon.com: Talk Like a Winner: 21 Simple Rules for Achieving Everyday Communication Success: Steve Nakamoto, Robin Quinn, Joe Kohl: Books

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stayfly Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 132	you seem like an intelligent and articulate person so my guess is that you are just one or two skills away from having good social skills here's three things to consider; 1. start around your interests and hobbies - what interests and hobbies do you have? are you able to talk about these interests and hobbies relatively well? if so, look for ways to incorporate your interests into your social life to help you get practice and build confidence 2. build your skill set - borrow some conversation skills books from your library or buy some from your bookstore. listen to other great communications and learn the mechanics of of what makes them communicate effectively. 3. focus on your state - manage your state so that you give yourself the best chance of success in this area. breathe, be relaxed, control your focus and be in your best social state. let me know your thoughts on these and all the best edit: speaking of books, here's one I found on Amazon that seems like it could be very helpful for you Amazon.com: Talk Like a Winner: 21 Simple Rules for Achieving Everyday Communication Success: Steve Nakamoto, Robin Quinn, Joe Kohl: Books Last edited by stayfly; 01-21-2009 at 02:48 PM.