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Kura Ookami · 01-21-2009, 11:55 AM

I don't know where to begin. I mean, I haven't got anyone to practice my social skills with at the moment and each time I've tried to talk with someone it hasn't worked out. So essentially all I've found are deadends in my search so far. That's pretty disheartening. And I don't know how I can really work on my social skills alone without anyone else. Social and relationships are dependent on others and of course I'm weak in this area so finding others to improve my skills is difficult for me. It's a catch 22 situation. My skills are weak so I can't find anyone to practice my social skills, and if I can't find someone to practice with, I'm not going to get any better.

It's natural that people would want to talk with people who are good at socialising. You enjoy a conversation with a person who is skilled in the art of conversation. You don't enjoy so much a conversation with someone who is weak in that area as much. It seems to be a game where the people at the top keep getting better and the people at the bottom find it difficult to imrpove at all. That's the way it seems to be at least. It makes you want to give up if you're one of those at the bottom.

I'd love it if someone who has good social skills could train me, teach me the skills I need, especially if we could meet in person and go out to practice together.

01-21-2009, 11:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kura Ookami Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 112	How do I work on my social skills? I don't know where to begin. I mean, I haven't got anyone to practice my social skills with at the moment and each time I've tried to talk with someone it hasn't worked out. So essentially all I've found are deadends in my search so far. That's pretty disheartening. And I don't know how I can really work on my social skills alone without anyone else. Social and relationships are dependent on others and of course I'm weak in this area so finding others to improve my skills is difficult for me. It's a catch 22 situation. My skills are weak so I can't find anyone to practice my social skills, and if I can't find someone to practice with, I'm not going to get any better. It's natural that people would want to talk with people who are good at socialising. You enjoy a conversation with a person who is skilled in the art of conversation. You don't enjoy so much a conversation with someone who is weak in that area as much. It seems to be a game where the people at the top keep getting better and the people at the bottom find it difficult to imrpove at all. That's the way it seems to be at least. It makes you want to give up if you're one of those at the bottom. I'd love it if someone who has good social skills could train me, teach me the skills I need, especially if we could meet in person and go out to practice together.