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Originally Posted by stayfly

there's some great books on this that I recommend you check out.

In a nutshell though;

1. do things you enjoy and that will put you in contact with the type of guys you are interested in.
2. notice guys that you are interested in and become friendly with them and determine if there is any chemistry between you
3. if there is chemistry, pursue it further. if there is no chemistry, forget him and move on the next one

I hope that helps!

Originally Posted by Parthon

I'm starting to learn that real love is a journey, not a destination. You don't just find the one guy you like and bam, you have the happy life. It never works like that. It's a multi stage process which involves become the best person you can be in order to get the relationship you deserve.

If you really want a boyfriend though, first work out what sort of boyfriend you would like. Two legs and breathing is not really helpful when trying to find someone, there's too many choices out there.

After you work out what you would like in an ideal partner, work on becoming a person that partner would like. Don't change your core though, who you are and your self expression are fantastic, but go to work on your values and your beliefs. There's much of your potential locked away and much of yourself that's unexpressed, it's all about loosening up and really living.

great advice! thanks!