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Originally Posted by loveliketheflowers  How do you go from meeting a guy, to talking to a guy, to dating the guy, to being in a committed relationship. I don't want to be a hook-up girl or booty call girl. I want to meet a guy, he becomes interested in me, i become interested in him, we become good friends, then girlfriend and boyfriend, then who knows after that. How are some girls always able to have boyfriends, and very good boyfriends? I stay in la and it is hard to find very good and decent people out here that are real and trustful. And everyone is so busy with work and school at night. How am I able to find a mate or find a boyfriend? How can I make a guy like me enough to make him feel like i'm good enough to be called his "girlfriend"? How long does it take usually? Just thinking about this and thought I would ask here. I feel like in this day in age, people do not care as much about relationships or falling in love with someone anymore. People seem to just want to be in open relationships, play the field, test the waters type of deals and i'm tired of it. Is anyone still wanting to be in love and get married one day and live that type of life? Let me know what you think. Thx. |
I'm starting to learn that real love is a journey, not a destination. You don't just find the one guy you like and bam, you have the happy life. It never works like that. It's a multi stage process which involves become the best person you can be in order to get the relationship you deserve.
If you really want a boyfriend though, first work out what sort of boyfriend you would like. Two legs and breathing is not really helpful when trying to find someone, there's too many choices out there.
After you work out what you would like in an ideal partner, work on becoming a person that partner would like. Don't change your core though, who you are and your self expression are fantastic, but go to work on your values and your beliefs. There's much of your potential locked away and much of yourself that's unexpressed, it's all about loosening up and really living.