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bollenbach · 01-07-2007, 12:26 AM

wow this thread is flooded with amazing advice..

I can honestly say I was sort of in the same position.. but in a different sense.

I've been with my GF for the past 2 months.. and we met in school.. now we're actually going to be in the same class for the next four months. I hear it's not a good thing to be in the same class errr.. work with your spouse, but whatever I'm just playing the cards I'm dealt.

I too use to get some what jealous and think of her as like "my only one" but in a very shallow context. It wasn't so much that I believed that she was my "one true love" but I do like her a lot. Actually.. we haven't even told eachother that we love eachother yet. I think it's too soon. Love is a very powerful word... and I think if you fart it out too much it really doesn't mean anything.

Anyway... the direction that I was trying to take on this was. A little while ago I use to get jealous about her talking to other guys... and I'm serious.. I've gotten over it. It has made the relationship a lot better. You never want someone nagging you about what you're doing in your own time... what kind of relationship would that be?

I talk to a lot of other girls... and I keep it up... It doesn't make sense to cut off your true life just because you have a boyfriend or girlfriend..

I'm only 19 years old so... I don't know if that really helps or not.. Is it good that I think this way at my age? I hope so...

I think dependency is ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥!!!

Live life and have fun... If me and my girlfriend broke up because of someone else.. I'd just accept it and move on.. I wouldn't even want to make it at all awkward for her and the other guy.

Straight up:

If you love someone.. free them.. and they'll come back to you
(something I heard a lot time ago.. and it's further back in the post)'
I think that's a golden rule to live a relationship by.

Secondly

Don't be a ♥♥♥♥♥, live your life to the fullest... don't let people weigh you down. I like my girlfriend a lot.. but.. If I ever had true evidence that she wasn't faithful.. I'd cut her off like a piece of turkey.

Last but not least:

Make sure you have fun... truly try to free yourself of these thoughts...
People don't hurt you by your thoughts and worries.. you do that to yourself.

01-07-2007, 12:26 AM	#71 (permalink)
bollenbach Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 38	wow this thread is flooded with amazing advice.. I can honestly say I was sort of in the same position.. but in a different sense. I've been with my GF for the past 2 months.. and we met in school.. now we're actually going to be in the same class for the next four months. I hear it's not a good thing to be in the same class errr.. work with your spouse, but whatever I'm just playing the cards I'm dealt. I too use to get some what jealous and think of her as like "my only one" but in a very shallow context. It wasn't so much that I believed that she was my "one true love" but I do like her a lot. Actually.. we haven't even told eachother that we love eachother yet. I think it's too soon. Love is a very powerful word... and I think if you fart it out too much it really doesn't mean anything. Anyway... the direction that I was trying to take on this was. A little while ago I use to get jealous about her talking to other guys... and I'm serious.. I've gotten over it. It has made the relationship a lot better. You never want someone nagging you about what you're doing in your own time... what kind of relationship would that be? I talk to a lot of other girls... and I keep it up... It doesn't make sense to cut off your true life just because you have a boyfriend or girlfriend.. I'm only 19 years old so... I don't know if that really helps or not.. Is it good that I think this way at my age? I hope so... I think dependency is ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥!!! Live life and have fun... If me and my girlfriend broke up because of someone else.. I'd just accept it and move on.. I wouldn't even want to make it at all awkward for her and the other guy. Straight up: If you love someone.. free them.. and they'll come back to you (something I heard a lot time ago.. and it's further back in the post)' I think that's a golden rule to live a relationship by. Secondly Don't be a ♥♥♥♥♥, live your life to the fullest... don't let people weigh you down. I like my girlfriend a lot.. but.. If I ever had true evidence that she wasn't faithful.. I'd cut her off like a piece of turkey. Last but not least: Make sure you have fun... truly try to free yourself of these thoughts... People don't hurt you by your thoughts and worries.. you do that to yourself.