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Originally Posted by -B-  If you have *more than one close friend* - you are polyamorous. Polyamory can include, but does not require sex. The end. 
That said, you to be yourself, first, for that to work - if you're gaining close friendships by being someone you're not, then those friendships are based on lies, and are not, in fact, close.
A big part of that is - whose standards are you judging /yourself/ by? The standards of other people? Why?
Other people are other people. You are yourself. |
Well said, B. I have discovered that if I trim myself to fit the world, I might as well not exist, because in that case, what I am presenting to the world is not who I really am, anyway.
People who march to their own drumbeat often effect significant change in the world, but usually not before they have stirred up a fair bit of controversy.
I think this kind of openness will help to move our world in a positive direction. So many people hold back from love because they are afraid love will become a prison. What I would like to see more of are relationships that are driven by the joy people share, instead of by outdated agreements that continue long after any real engagement has ceased. And people who love and yet hold their lover in an open hand.
I think this was what the "free love" movement in the sixties and seventies was meant to be. It was used as an excuse for mindless, soulless sex, and I think that's what de-railed it and made it seem harmful, but I believe the basic concept was sound - that real love is a temple and not the prison we tend to make it.