Can't save people from themselves.
If you can't handle being around them doing this, you may consider leaving them to their own devices and just drop 'em. About doing stuff, you can't control them, they have to make their own choices. You could try sending each a good book on deeply fulfilling relationships, or write each a letter about what they've been doing. About the most you can do.
I've a friend in a somewhat similar position. Been seeing this guy for about four years. One time even broke up for about 8 months but got back together. He has no regard for others or their feelings, like very little empathy. It hurt to hear about her problems so I eventually just stopped asking her about it. If it came up, I'd steer the conversation away or leave. She's eventually wised up and is now seriously considering breaking it off if he doesn't fix things by April.
Last edited by RT Wolf; 01-20-2009 at 03:22 AM.
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