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Originally Posted by WhiteCrow  If you can do all this without any negative emotion whatsoever, that is great  Teach me! |
Haha, well, I think life taught me. I don't know if I can "teach" others.
I do not fear loss. I've lost relationships before, one I was in for 5+ years, but I've always believed that I will find someone new. Someone I like better. And I always have. So why fear loss? If I "lose" someone, that just means someone better is coming along.
I am not co-dependent, because I've been single before and am happy being so. I'm also happy being in a relationship. Either one is good with me, so I don't ever feel like I need my partner.
And the last thing you mentioned is loss of freedom. I guess it depends on how you define "freedom." My current relationship has helped me to travel more around the world and I still see all of my friends as often as I want to, and I still participate in all the hobbies that I want to, so I have no loss of freedom. In fact, I gain freedom. Just choose someone who is not interested in controlling you.
Monogamy is not for everyone, obviously. Some people are afraid of becoming bored with the same person. I've never experienced this feeling and I don't intend to. I think this feeling has more to do with ME than with my partner.