I want to thank you for sharing your experiences, including personal information & pics. Perhaps this is why your open relationship style works so well for you, unlike most "playboys", I feel like you're not full of BS. Your honesty is refreshing. Thank you!
I am going to ask something I'm sure you've had others ask you before, but I am curious to your reply. Forgive me but... If you have a "primary" girlfriend who you're in love with, why do you need to keep looking for action outside of that relationship? Does it imply that you have just not met a woman who is enough to keep you satisfied?
My other question concerns the risk. Even with condoms, they do sometimes fail and don't protect unwrapped parts of the body.
Pregnancy: what if one of your girlfriends got pregnant? Would you be willing to raise a child with someone you only had casual sex with? Has it happened?
Disease: do you & your primary get tested often? How do you deal with disease such as herpes that spread orally? Or genital warts, crabs, and other things that can be spread on the areas not covered by a condom?
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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno Posted by HealingMaven :
> and hey, everyone, male or female has dry spells. If your lover is having one, this rule is guaranteed to make her feel worse about it, not only does it pummel her ego, but it raises otherwise unnecessary insecurities about losing you.
You imagine that this is sampled much more frequently than I would ever insist upon; I don't require that anyone EVER has sex to suit me - just that they be open to the opportunity, and never consider me as their only option. |
I read HealingMaven's question differently, but perhaps I misunderstood it.
If the primary girlfriend is having a dry spell because of stress, physical reasons, or whatever, could you conceive it might be possible she ends up hurt? Instead of trying to help her work through it, you go out and have you needs met by others. In a monogamous relationship, at least in my perspective, it means I need to be home with my man finding ways to de-stress him or new ways to excite him. Sometimes in working through dry-spells, periods of premature ejaculation, periods of impotency, or whatever we discover new and interesting ways to connect to each other. Your thoughts?