all I can say is that I would not want to be in your shoes
now you can say :thanks a lot why the heck is she replying to this
I am replying because I lack the assertiveness gene too
but it sounds like you have a great trait in my eyes-compassion
after all my years of reading, learning and researching I have finally come to the conclusion that it's just a weakness and I can improve it somewhat but I will never be like other people
does your company have a set of guidelines/expectations for each job in the company
one that you could give each person
and say - 'hey this is what is expected of you or else you might want to find another company to work for '
do you really want this job ?
or would you want to hire someone to
do the assertiveness for you