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bellbird · 01-18-2009, 09:19 PM

Hi
I suggest that you accept that it's lonely at the top. I think if you make the right decidions for the company and behave in an ethical manner staff will come to respect your choices even when they do not understand it at the time. The 71 year old is obviously tiffed that he's ditched. He prob didn't expect you had the balls. You do. Stick to your guns. You have every right and you KNOW it's what you have to do. Don't backpeddle ever. The girl also is not helping. Do not work with people you don't trust.

There's no magic pill but the great news is that you have conjured up these situations in your life to learn from them. (That's a way of viewing it, google the Secret).
I wish you well and honestly, you know what you're doing but as you said are worried how others will respond. The truth is it doesn't matter, you are the boss, you know and it's really about confidence. This you will gain from experience. Looks like you're doing great so find a mentor and stick with your intentions. Look to yourself for pats on the back, not anyone else. Good luck.

01-18-2009, 09:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
bellbird Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Posts: 194	Go for it Hi I suggest that you accept that it's lonely at the top. I think if you make the right decidions for the company and behave in an ethical manner staff will come to respect your choices even when they do not understand it at the time. The 71 year old is obviously tiffed that he's ditched. He prob didn't expect you had the balls. You do. Stick to your guns. You have every right and you KNOW it's what you have to do. Don't backpeddle ever. The girl also is not helping. Do not work with people you don't trust. There's no magic pill but the great news is that you have conjured up these situations in your life to learn from them. (That's a way of viewing it, google the Secret). I wish you well and honestly, you know what you're doing but as you said are worried how others will respond. The truth is it doesn't matter, you are the boss, you know and it's really about confidence. This you will gain from experience. Looks like you're doing great so find a mentor and stick with your intentions. Look to yourself for pats on the back, not anyone else. Good luck.