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Originally Posted by crescive  He had read my travel diary and read about what I wrote about my sexual experience with this other man and felt a lot of insecurity because he claims I never wrote about our sex like that. Anyways, I know when it boils down to it, it was just his ego being bruised but I wonder if this is something that is extremely sensitive for all guys? If so, why are there some men who are so calm and even willing to "wife-swap" or adapt a swinger or polyamorous lifestyle? Basically I want to know more about the male psyche and their view on sex. Is it a tool for possession? A way of stroking the ego? Is this a sign of immaturity? |
The very first thing that I think of when I read your first post is that you may have been able to work things out after the fact if you had gone on to write something about him. My girlfriend recently was extremely hurt that I did not tell her she was beautiful, gorgeous, etc. enough. It may come from insecurity, but that doesn't mean there isn't something you can do about it by simply listening to your partner. I made it a goal for a month to tell my girlfriend she was pretty/etc at least once a day, especially after she had put effort into it. It's easily done, and gives them the satisfaction of knowing that they have gotten something they wanted.
Am I saying this is the absolute best way? Not necessarily, but if it works, it works. The best thing to do is to have a positive, confident outlook on life all the time, but for your partner maybe that's easily said than done. After all, he's only human.
That's all I have time to say for now. I'll have to read other replies later...