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Originally Posted by pyrogen  As someone who's had many male friends (and either been their object of affection, or watched them make mistake after mistake with their own objects of affection), this is my two cents about how to make a girl friend into a girlfriend...
DON'T. Don't get on the friends track if you're looking to date and attracted to the woman. You won't get anywhere. |
Precisely! That's why I preface the OP with this:
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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno this ONLY works with REAL friendships... not girls whom you've only befriended because you couldn't get them to sleep with you.... |
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Originally Posted by pyrogen If you want to date her, start off dating her. Make your intentions known from the beginning. Stay consistent, too.
If you started off friends, or she turned you down and you stayed friends (with ulterior motives), and she accepts whatever you offer while not actually dating you, it's not her fault, it's yours. |
Bingo!
That said, if the friendship IS genuine,
and would exist regardless of gender, then the
most likely reason there has never been a sexual component is described in the OP - and that reason might be mitigated and overcome if the sentiments and understandings I've put forward here can be shared with your friend.
Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy