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Originally Posted by Nmilgrom  1) Do you plan to give yourself any form of time frame for dating people before moving into a physically intimate phase? I think a lot of people who doubt your intentions for "expansion of loving encounters" are concerned this is all about physical love. If it is about intimate friendships then one would imagine to avoid temptation you would create a personal law of how long you must get to know someone- perhaps 4 dates? Should they meet your close friends (Erin? etc.) If you find yourself meeting people and having a physical encounter and that is it, is that considered polyamorous? I believe this is the root concern of your readers.
2) This one you, hopefully will appreciate. I miss "old school" Steve Pavlina. I enjoy the newer articles about personal development, but every now and then could you throw in a polyphasic sleep, or 'how to get more done', or "wake up early" article? |
I'll try to answer, but you're making some assumptions that I don't buy into, so I can't answer the questions entirely from within your frame because I don't agree with the frame you're using. For example, one of those hidden assumptions is that an intimate friendship fits with a dating frame. I don't believe intimate friendships and dating are a very good fit. Dating seems a better fit for a long-term romantic interest, which is a rather different type of relationship.
1) It sounds like you're asking if I'm interested in one-night stands. The answer to that is no. I've never had an ONS, nor does that appeal to me.
I see no need for an arbitrary time frame though. I prefer to make such decisions consciously as they arise. Setting up rules like this seems immature and unnecessary, as if I can't trust myself to make good decisions. The truth is that I trust myself to make very good decisions along the way. In this case, adding silly rules would be a block to conscious living, not an enabler. I suppose they could be helpful though if a person's self-trust and self-discipline are weak.
2) I suggest you build a time-travel machine, so you can travel back in time a few years and spend more time with my old self. Personally I've outgrown him, but to each his own.
If you expect me to return to the past, your expectations are unrealistic.