I believe that brains function using the concept of judgment - looking out at the world and saying to oneself: "Is this something I want to move towards? Or is it something I want to move away from? Or, do I need more information about it before I can make a decision?". So, to me, trying to be "non-judgmental" isn't respecting our own natural and healthy brains. It's almost like being judgmental about how we process information. :-)
However, I think we can achieve the same extenal effect of being "non-judgmental" while also being honest about what we naturally feel about things, when we choose to use non-violent communication techniques to become aware of and clearly express what it is that we really want as we move into the future. And Marshal Rosenberg is the one to read/listen to when it comes to non-violent communication, for those who are interested. Taking our negative internal "away from" assessments/judgments and turning them into positive expressions of what we really want for ourselves and our environment allows us to remove the negativity from judgments entirely, allowing everyone to feel more relaxed and comfortable with the idea of our naturally judgmental minds.
And this "positive expression" of our thoughts and feelings goes a long way towards creating that environment of unconditional love, from what I've seen, with the other major component being a demonstration of wanting others to have the resources they need to grow and be healthy, with an understanding that the specifics of what those resources look like and where they come from are going to vary from individual to individual.
Peace, Love, and Bicycles,
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