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Originally Posted by milly  but to put one's own children after a cause is just something i don't believe in. that's not living in fear, that is standing up for my own freedom to believe what i believe. to me, family (especially my children if i had any) would be the absolute priority given the fact that i chose to create them and therefore i have a responsibility to them. |
If you're willing to put your children first in your life, I would find it impossible to trust you. This implies you'd be willing to lie for them, harm others for them, steal for them, etc. It also implies that you'll raise your kids to do the same. IMO this is a violent, disconnected philosophy. This kind of attachment also produces a great deal of fear, which leads to irrational behavior.
My children are important to me, and I love them very much, but I would never put them first in my life. For starters, my dedication to truth is much more important, and I would want my kids to grow up with a similar principle-centered focus. If I was willing to sacrifice my ideals and values for my children, I'd consider myself unworthy of fatherhood.