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Originally Posted by sunnywinter  I don't know what to do 
Any suggestions as to how I can get her out of my life without hurting her feelings or making her upset? |
You absolutely want to get rid of her? But you don't want her to be upset? It won't work. Everyone gets upset, you can't please everyone. And when you do (as you have been doing) you are the one that gets crapped on.
You've got quite a few choices here though...
If she has a nice personality otherwise then perhaps keeping her as a friend is beneficial to you both. Have a sit-down and talk with her, telling her what upsets you about her. She may not know that she's sitting too close or doing other irritating things and suddenly you've helped her become more aware of personal space (which helps her in other relationships.)
If she's phoning at all hours then give her a time-frame she should call at. Then hold true to that and don't allow others to call you at that time either. If she is trying to take up all that time tell her you'd like the line free some of the night for your other friends or emergency calls. You're the one allowing her to make you uncomfortable and irritated.
You will always find people like this and invite them into your life until you can learn to stand up for yourself and understand that not everyone is pre-programmed to your comfort settings. Teach them, learn from them, then let them go if they will not meet you at least half-way.
Another option is one people often take which isn't too 'harmful'. It is to just say something like, "We're different people, I'd like to end our friendship. Thank you for the fun experiences we did have together."
As a note, I had a friend like that when I was a teen. I did the wrong thing. I kept avoiding this person like you are doing till they eventually took the hint and stopped calling. How frustrating to play the avoidance game for months. It was a waste of energy and one simple talk could have enriched our friendship or at least have finished it much sooner with less stress.