Revelation!! I'd always considered polyamory to be an excuse to have sex with other women while still being married. I'd never thought of it as simply being able to be close friends with members of the opposite sex. I've always found it easier to be my true self with women than with other men, with whom I always feel I have to be as "manly" as them. If this is true then I am naturally polyamorous and have been all my adult life.
Until I met my present wife I always felt I had to be "Normal". Claire (my 2nd and current wife) is the first person I have ever known who I have felt able to be my real self with. She won't hesitate to criticise me if she feels I am wrong about something, but she still gives me the space to be myself and I love her for that. she is the only person who has seen the writing that comes out of the darkest, deepest pits of my mind!! and I am the only person who knows the real Claire. Even our parents haven't seen the real us (although there is not much to write home about in our true selves).
I think it is human nature to be judgemental about other people's perceived eccentricities while being oblivious to our own. We should all just simply live and let live.
Thanks Steve for an inspiring web site. I'm not sure where all this is taking me, but I'm enjoying the ride!!
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