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The carrot and stick isn't to change the person, it's to communicate the specifics of the etiquette while protecting the forum.
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I communicate the specifics of the etiquette by telling another person the specifics.
If I assume that the other person is a conscious individual you actually wants to follow the etiquette but just didn't know punishing the person makes no sense.
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Prison isn't to punish people, it's to protect society. But the justice system doesn't only deliver life sentences and warnings. There is the idea that the sentence should be commensurate with the violation.
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Actually the Steve Pavlina forum doesn't happen to be a state. It happens to be a place where a community gathers to build relationship with each other to grow with each other.
If you have a love relationship you don't say either: "Hey let's end our relationship for 6 month because you misbehaved and afterwards we simply continue it and I hope you will behave better in our relationship.
The only reason to reenter into a relationship is having talked together about the reasons of the break up and agreeing to change.
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Do you really think that it's impossible for people to get their egos under control during a 1-2 year ban?
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If they do and really understand that it was the right decisions to ban them at the time they got banned, writing Steve or another moderator and asking to be unbanned might be the better way.
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It's kind of contrary to the "people can improve over time" philosophy...
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We do have a "people can improve through conscious choice"-philosophy instead of a "people improve because time passes by"-philosophy.