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Originally Posted by TektonikShift  I'm not asking for a "trick"... but an opener, an ice-breaker. |
first you said you just wanted to be honest, to apologise for your mistakes and thank her for the lessons.
now you say you want some butter to break the ice, that you want an opener. an opener implies you actually want to have some sort of relationship with this girl again. and with how you thought everyone uses/you want to use butter 'to make things go smoother' implied you think this apology is the butter, a.k.a. a tool or means to get something else you really want.
so first decide what you want. then be honest with yourself about it. then, if you ask people to advise you about it, be honest with them too (it really does help if they know what you're really after).
I know you might not see it this way, but I really think it would be useful for you to look at your own posts in this thread as if you were reading someone else's words, cause it may lead you to discover that you're not really being entirely honest or consistent. you may notice some other stuff too. but I'll leave you to it.