The trouble is, that people want to see things as all or nothing. Either "Marriage is wonder and roses and needs to last forever! Sigh..." or "Marriage sucks, people aren't meant to be tied down legally to just one person anyway!".
What if the thing we most need is to increase our comfort with ambiguity and uncertainty? NOTHING is certain. NOTHING is guaranteed. Even if you divorce someone in ten years it doesn't mean the relationship wasn't worth it for those ten years, and that you didn't benefit from being married during that time.
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