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I don't think it'll catch on because it's essentially battling with one of the mainstream emotions. Jealousy.
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My own guess, after thinking about it/ seeing it for many years, is that even in a completely poly-aware and poly-accepting Heinleinian society 100 years from now, 80% or 90% of people will choose monogamy if only because it's simpler.
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For that reason I reckon people are going to suffer much abuse before it becomes a standard practice with proper guidelines.
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Oh yeh, polys are well aware that for a lot of people, their existence strikes close to home. Out polys threaten people in a way that out gays, for instance, don't. Most people are not gay; it has no attraction for them, so they don't feel personally threatened by it. Whereas closeted, self-denying gays and bis are often the most virulent homophobes (J. Edgar Hoover, a lot of televangelists...). Thankfully these are not a large part of the population.
On the other hand, most coupled-up people
have had the desire for another relationship at some time, and suppressed it (or not) in the belief that honest, ethical multi-relationships are impossible.
Then there's the kind of person who's been living a lie for many years with a secret affair, defines himself as a secret, bad, skeleton-closet person, confesses to no one but his priest -- and then sees a triad all happily chatting and holding hands together at a party and his brain goes bust.
Or the person who went through an awful divorce over an affair, complete with detectives and subpoenaed e-mails, whose brain explodes on seeing happy polys together.
Sometimes it's fun to explode people's brains, but it can be risky.