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Originally Posted by jaamkie  aw cmon, Rudyard Kipling? sigh... women are attracted to more variety than just that stereotype. Men can be almost anyone if they are genuine, mostly happy with themselves and their life, and have some sort of interests/goals/plans beyond chasing women. The most unattractive guys are the self-centered jerks (there is a huge difference between knowing what you want and honestly pursuing it, and manipulating/trashing other people- it's the difference between a competitive strong team leader and the cheating aggressive ******* no one wants to play with), or the fawning drop-everything-for-the-woman guy who is honestly infatuated and honestly has nothing better going on in his life except to obsess about his girlfriend (this bothers women for the same reason men can feel smothered by mothering there-all-the-time women- it reminds you that the person's whole self worth is derived from dating you, and that's way too much pressure). |
Very nice summary of the poem, even if your cadence is a little crude in comparison.
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Originally Posted by Magicinthenight And yes, being yourself and being someone who's attractive can be hard but once your head and heart are in the right place and you value yourself, you'll have a lot easier time attracting someone who is right for you. |
It's worth remembering that who you are is not a static thing, and that you do have a choice about the process. Sure, you should be yourself, but you ought to choose to be someone worthwhile to be, too.
That is what personal development is.