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ndpistonfan · 01-15-2009, 02:46 PM

Johnny,

I sent you a PM. Anyhow, I respect your perspective as someone willing to go against social norms and conventions and designing a great, fulfilling life based on your own paradigm of contentment. I've always thought the dating scene, and getting over one's fear of women, is similar to sports in the regards as it's all about overcoming obstacles (both real and self-perpetuated), performing in accordance with the circumstances around you with confidence and competence, dictating tempo, etc. All of that is related to the "Inner Game" you refer to. Even if people don't agree with everything you do, it's irrelevent. When I used to go out and employ different techniques and tactics to overcome my own insecurities the most valuable thing I discovered was the journey of overcoming my nuerosis and becoming a better, more valuable person. You've used the dating arena as your stage of finding what you've sought, self-mastery and inner peace. As that evolves you'll be the better for it.

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ndpistonfan Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Nashville, TN Posts: 48	Thought-provoking Johnny, I sent you a PM. Anyhow, I respect your perspective as someone willing to go against social norms and conventions and designing a great, fulfilling life based on your own paradigm of contentment. I've always thought the dating scene, and getting over one's fear of women, is similar to sports in the regards as it's all about overcoming obstacles (both real and self-perpetuated), performing in accordance with the circumstances around you with confidence and competence, dictating tempo, etc. All of that is related to the "Inner Game" you refer to. Even if people don't agree with everything you do, it's irrelevent. When I used to go out and employ different techniques and tactics to overcome my own insecurities the most valuable thing I discovered was the journey of overcoming my nuerosis and becoming a better, more valuable person. You've used the dating arena as your stage of finding what you've sought, self-mastery and inner peace. As that evolves you'll be the better for it.