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This style of friendship has worked wonders for me. I listened to your lectures about a year ago and they entirely changed they way I socialize. The only issues I have run into with this is when I lived from a scarcity mindset. When I didn't go out and find other women and started to rely on a small few for sex; I began to count and things entirely changed for the worse. This line also begins to blur when you are completely emotionally intimate, it seems if you aren't internally completely settled on not counting you will be tested for it over time.

I have a question. What do you describe yourself as when you are "just friends"? I would say that and it tended to raise problems. Does this indicate I had begun to count? What should I do once I've begun to count and I don't want to? It felt that the time I began to count was around the same time we became closer emotionally..which I enjoy just as much as the sex.

Did you behave this way when you first met your primary? Do you maintain this kind of relationship with all the women you are with?

Its great to have you here Johnny. Welcome to the boards.