While I'd like at least one of my girlfriend's kids to be genetically mine (if and when we have kids) so that I'd have an improved chance of relating to it, my girlfriend has at least one friend that I'd be comfortable with her carrying a child of. The priority for both of us is simply that it be a healthy, happy, intelligent child, and I'm fine with her seeking out the best specimens for that. Likewise she's okay with me helping someone else have a child, though neither of us would take any of this lightly and a lot of thought/consideration would go into it, and it may involve artificial insemination.
As for sex, while my preference is that we each only have sex with people we can both interact very closely with, if my girlfriend were interested in having an experience with a heterosexual male or a lesbian it'd likely be alright. The closest I come to experiencing jealousy is being bothered if I can't be with someone because they're with someone else. Provided my girlfriend's interactions don't keep her from being with me, and we both stay healthy, I would be rather happy and look forward to us having whatever experiences we can.
My girlfriend and I aren't going around having sex with others at this point, and it'd be okay if we never did, as she hasn't been drawn to it and I'm fine without it, but we do maintain many close friendships. Multiple past girlfriends openly dated other people while I was with them and it was never a problem for me, particularly when it was a good friend of mine that they were also seeing.
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