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Originally Posted by missing  Generally speaking, a young woman has far more sexual allure than your average young man, for better or worse (you didn't mention your age, but I'm assuming 20's or less likely early 30s). Perhaps you're man simply did not understand this when he initially agreed to go polyamorous. |
This part of Missing's reply about sums it up really. I've had many a conversation with women who have difficulty understanding why promiscuous men are hailed as 'studs' but promiscuous women are denigrated as 'sluts' or 'whores'........leaving primeaval genetic legacies aside, partly it's because to get sex there is little or no effort on a woman's part, whereas for a man there is generally tremendous effort involved and pressure from a very young age to be 'sexually experienced'.
I recall giving my cousin and her friend a lift to the airport (they were on their way to Greece on holiday) neither was a model type, but their conversation was about
when and
how not
if they would be having sex on holiday.....such a conversation between young men would be dismissed as bravado or wishful thinking.
I bet if your b/f had produced as many 'notes' to compare as you in your time apart there wouldn't be such a big problem. I think he might be a little jealous.
Or he might love you and not want to share you......either way he's f***ed....or rather he isn't!