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Originally Posted by crescive  1. What are the ramifications if one partner wants to be poly and the other doesn't? |
That can be a very difficult situation. Depending on the people involved, it can work out in various ways. Sometimes you can reach a compromise; you can date other people under certain circumstances that your partner is okay with. Sometimes it ends the relationship if you can't find any common ground. Sometimes the mono person is okay with the poly person being poly as long as the primary relationship is good, secure, and stable. Sometimes the poly person is okay with being monogamous. (That's similar to the situation I'm in with Kyeli right now.)
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Originally Posted by crescive 2. How do you deal with someone wanting you to be their one and only? It's tremendously sweet and I find that I get overpowered by their "love" I guess and it makes me feel very guilty at having the beliefs I do about love when it's incongruous with theirs. |
Personally, I don't find it sweet at all. I find it a turn-off and a yellow flag that someone is expecting me to fulfill all their needs and be their everything. I prefer a partner who stands on their own two feet and opens their arms to me, rather than a partner who leans toward me so far that they would fall flat on their face if I took a step backward. But I guess it depends on what they really mean and how they really feel. I would deal with that situation by talking about our feelings VERY openly and making sure that we each truly knew how the other person feels. It's the sort of imbalance that would make me very nervous, but if we figured out exactly how we feel about each other and we do turn out to be compatible, then it could work. (:
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Originally Posted by crescive 3. I'm 22 years old, so quite young by most standards, do you think polyamory will still be feasible or desirable when you get older? |
I'm 31 and I've been poly since I was your age, so I'd say yes, definitely. There are poly people of all ages. (: