Question: Do you believe there is more than only one soul mate for you or possibly many?
Perhaps this man is just one of a few - or many soul mates for you...
Either way he is in your life for a reason. Accept his coming into your life with gratitude and let go of the need to know what may become. As always everything is working out just as it should - go with the flow!
Now... (being a man myself) if he's having some of the same feelings you are - and he's not totally happy in his marriage... well lets just say things could get interesting. Be honest - your VERY much into him right now - you've already emotionally put yourself out there. I'm sure he's picking up on that... Those hugs of yours sound very interesting - I'm sure your giving off some real energy...
Glad to hear your in a good place right now. Use that to your advantage and keep a little distance. You get too close and you won't see or think clearly - trust me...
I've been in your shoes. Honestly - it sucks. Keep the faith. The universe will most likely handle this much better than we could ever have guessed. Stay open to what may come. Get excited about it. Perhaps one of your other perfect soul mates is just around the corner...