[ixmatus]

I am a man and would say missing's post was excellent. I can't say all men will react the same to generalized situations or emotional experiences; but, the vast majority of us do have experiences that reinforce foundations given to us at birth; both genetic (ala what missing said) and cultural.

I know for one, the feeling or need to possess my woman's sexuality can be overwhelming at times. When my girlfriend discussed with me her sexual history, the fun and joy she experienced having a threesome while she wasn't attached to either of the participants was an interesting thing for me. I felt possessive and as if someone had taken her away from me (even though it was in the past, and we do have incredible sex).

I would put it in the field of being heart wrenching. It feels difficult to explain, to be honest. I can see and understand the logical reasoning behind Polyamory - it is logical; but, the desire to have one person and have that person all to yourself overrides the logic for me (obviously, it makes breaking up an extremely painful process). These emotions are also part of the reason many men adopt a closed emotional lifestyle with many sexually casual female partners, it's less painful to be distant from them and have sex with them than it is to get close to them and go through the vicious cycle of a relationship (what I am experiencing right now).

Not sure if that helps, but, there you have it.