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crescive · 01-14-2009, 06:48 AM

I tried polyamory with my partner when I studied abroad. Seeing as how I was going to be across the Atlantic for 6 months, and we were both very progressive and open-minded, we both agreed that it was the best decision. In fact, he told me to have as much fun and experience as much as I could. I, in turn, wanted him to have the same, to not miss me or be lonely.

Anyways, it was life-changing, I was so open to the world and it received me with open arms. I am so glad I was able to do that because I now realize that there is not only one right person for anyone, and that the world is so big and there are so many connections to be made. It was really amazing. I even fell in love. However, when I went back home, feelings like jealousy and distrust began to arise. The 6 month hole in our relationship left many questions and we were struggling to catch up with one another about everything. We had many fights and tears, but our relationship in many ways also became deeper and more passionate than ever, but it was quite unhealthy and quite emotionally damaging. In the end, we broke up.

I still completely believe in polyamorous relationships but it is extremely tricky because emotions are very volatile and unpredictable. I believe it is only possible with 2 highly conscious, ego-less, honest, and loving individuals. As we all know, there are not too many people who are at such levels of being. I'm sure if there are anyone who wants to try it and believe they can do it in the most positive ways it would be Erin and Steve. I really hope them all the best! I do think life is all about connection and human relationships. Love is infinite and spreading love is always a positive thing.

01-14-2009, 06:48 AM	#40 (permalink)
crescive Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 101	I tried polyamory with my partner when I studied abroad. Seeing as how I was going to be across the Atlantic for 6 months, and we were both very progressive and open-minded, we both agreed that it was the best decision. In fact, he told me to have as much fun and experience as much as I could. I, in turn, wanted him to have the same, to not miss me or be lonely. Anyways, it was life-changing, I was so open to the world and it received me with open arms. I am so glad I was able to do that because I now realize that there is not only one right person for anyone, and that the world is so big and there are so many connections to be made. It was really amazing. I even fell in love. However, when I went back home, feelings like jealousy and distrust began to arise. The 6 month hole in our relationship left many questions and we were struggling to catch up with one another about everything. We had many fights and tears, but our relationship in many ways also became deeper and more passionate than ever, but it was quite unhealthy and quite emotionally damaging. In the end, we broke up. I still completely believe in polyamorous relationships but it is extremely tricky because emotions are very volatile and unpredictable. I believe it is only possible with 2 highly conscious, ego-less, honest, and loving individuals. As we all know, there are not too many people who are at such levels of being. I'm sure if there are anyone who wants to try it and believe they can do it in the most positive ways it would be Erin and Steve. I really hope them all the best! I do think life is all about connection and human relationships. Love is infinite and spreading love is always a positive thing.