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soulbreaker · 01-14-2009, 05:05 AM

I've known this kid since high school. i'm 22 years old now, and after a long period of time, i've now come to realize that there are qualities i really don't like about this friend. he's never opened up to me (i've tried), i feel like i really don't know him as well as i should. he can have really cruel behavior at times, and sometimes he can be nice. as weird as this sounds, there are some qualities i do like about him. he's fun to be around, but at the end of the day when i talk to my close friend about this friendship and gossip about him, it makes me wonder why i'm in the friendship in the first place if i'm saying these things.

it's my fault for never pulling him to side and telling him ever how i feel, but then again that's what is wrong with the friendship: there's no communication.

i like the kid, but i'm just frustrated with our relationship, and i'm wondering what i should do about the situation. i want close relationships in my life.

he's leaving out of state to california in may to start a full time job, which should cut things off somewhat, and i'm wondering whether i should cut the rope or passively just let it drift away. i'm sure he'll stay in touch every now and then through phone calls and email, and i'm just not sure if i even want to deal with that as well. any thoughts are HIGHLY appreciated on what action should be taken.

Thank You.

all summed up: is it best to just dump a friend (which they aren't expecting) after 6 years or is it best to just not say anything and move on with your life?

01-14-2009, 05:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
soulbreaker Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 20	How to Let Go of a Friend I've known this kid since high school. i'm 22 years old now, and after a long period of time, i've now come to realize that there are qualities i really don't like about this friend. he's never opened up to me (i've tried), i feel like i really don't know him as well as i should. he can have really cruel behavior at times, and sometimes he can be nice. as weird as this sounds, there are some qualities i do like about him. he's fun to be around, but at the end of the day when i talk to my close friend about this friendship and gossip about him, it makes me wonder why i'm in the friendship in the first place if i'm saying these things. it's my fault for never pulling him to side and telling him ever how i feel, but then again that's what is wrong with the friendship: there's no communication. i like the kid, but i'm just frustrated with our relationship, and i'm wondering what i should do about the situation. i want close relationships in my life. he's leaving out of state to california in may to start a full time job, which should cut things off somewhat, and i'm wondering whether i should cut the rope or passively just let it drift away. i'm sure he'll stay in touch every now and then through phone calls and email, and i'm just not sure if i even want to deal with that as well. any thoughts are HIGHLY appreciated on what action should be taken. Thank You. all summed up: is it best to just dump a friend (which they aren't expecting) after 6 years or is it best to just not say anything and move on with your life?