To each their own... but I personally wouldn't want other people basing their opinion of me on a false "strategic" self when there's an authentic me inside that prefers to be expressed.
I guess it comes down to the fact that your words indicate that you have something to lose if she were to know the "real" you.
So what are you scared to lose by letting somebody see you authentically?
(and in the event this comes across as criticism, it is not intended so in any way/shape/form... it's only intended as an opportunity to guide and explore what feels right for you, and I know that my insights and questions are based on my experience - not on yours)
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