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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  @moonlite: No need to defend yourself or attack me because again, you aren't being attacked. You asked for help... and now the rest is up to you. The mirror exercise is still waiting. Lower your shields just a tad, and give it a try. You may find the results enlightening. 
If the idea irks you at this time -- for whatever reason -- just set it aside for a week, and come back to it later. It should still be just as effective. |
Well, what a scarcity of ideas! Not everything what people say of themselves is defensive and not everything what they say about others is an attack. I wonder if you can imagine different option than me looking for help (which obviously I can't get here). Using your schematic response I could infer that it is you who is desperately looking for help in places you can't get it. But of course I would not do it as I'm not going to be your "on-line therapist". It would be not only naive but also simply condescending. And I didn't agree that you would be mine, so I'm not going to take the role of "a patient". It's just a discussion not therapy or even diagnostic process.
Life is not that simple to explain everything through one single set of notions or ideas. Like for instance: "projection", "mirroring" or "defense". Describing your writings as having features of BPD is only one possible way and for sure it is a kind of reductionism even if accurate. I bite my tongue and leave my interpretations of your response for myself.
If I was good at astrology for instance I would write maybe something like - "Steve writes like Virgo with Sagittarius rising and Venus in conjunction with Pluto." I understand your problem - then you could simply despise me by telling me that my guess is wrong. Now you just can't prove that I'm wrong so you must "help me" to see it and make me nullify my opinion. But it is rather impossible that so intelligent person as you can seriously believe that I will just follow your advice and in case I won't you can easily explain it as a "resistance". Isn't it too shallow for you? And again - does it really matter what kind of opinion I have?