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TrashyMcTrash · 01-12-2009, 08:24 PM

Hi, this is my first post here, so I'd like to say hello to all of you wonderful people. I've been reading this forum since months, but now I decided to be active. Oh, and I'm from Germany, so my English might sometimes be strange

So, anyway - I'm a guy and share my apartment with 3 other guys. I'm really happy to be with them, but I have one problem that I think could become quite a big one. One of the guys is always complaining, nagging or saying negative things.

Examples:

We were sitting at the table, eating sandwiches, but he couldn't manage to get ketchup out of his bottle, so he yells "**** this bottle! Which as.shole designed such a shitty bottle"
Whenever he gets mail, he automatically assumes that it's bills or other "idiots" from the government, who want something from him
Whenever something changes in his environment (yesterday he downloaded the newest version of MSN messenger, which has a new design), he usually yells out how shitty it is ("****ing Microsoft, always changing their designs for the worse")
etc... list could go on forever

it doesn't really bother my other two roommates that much - they say it's kind of funny that he's always screaming "F.uck it, sh.it, as.shole". they don't really take it that seriously. but I'm kind of bothered by it. It's not the biggest deal in the world, but it kind of affects my usually good mood.

So, much blabla, simple question: "How do I tell him that I think that he's always complaining and not being positive, and that I'd like him to stop it". I'm pretty sure that he'd say "What? that's not true at all, I'm not always complaining"

any ideas?

01-12-2009, 08:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
TrashyMcTrash Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Germany Posts: 13	How to tell my roommate to stop complaining all the time? Hi, this is my first post here, so I'd like to say hello to all of you wonderful people. I've been reading this forum since months, but now I decided to be active. Oh, and I'm from Germany, so my English might sometimes be strange So, anyway - I'm a guy and share my apartment with 3 other guys. I'm really happy to be with them, but I have one problem that I think could become quite a big one. One of the guys is always complaining, nagging or saying negative things. Examples: We were sitting at the table, eating sandwiches, but he couldn't manage to get ketchup out of his bottle, so he yells "** this bottle! Which as.shole designed such a shitty bottle" Whenever he gets mail, he automatically assumes that it's bills or other "idiots" from the government, who want something from him Whenever something changes in his environment (yesterday he downloaded the newest version of MSN messenger, which has a new design), he usually yells out how shitty it is ("**ing Microsoft, always changing their designs for the worse") etc... list could go on forever it doesn't really bother my other two roommates that much - they say it's kind of funny that he's always screaming "F.uck it, sh.it, as.shole". they don't really take it that seriously. but I'm kind of bothered by it. It's not the biggest deal in the world, but it kind of affects my usually good mood. So, much blabla, simple question: "How do I tell him that I think that he's always complaining and not being positive, and that I'd like him to stop it". I'm pretty sure that he'd say "What? that's not true at all, I'm not always complaining" any ideas?