The issue isn't whether or not your friend plays video games 24/7. It's whether you find yourself sucked into his patterns. Which much of the time, you will. And I knew plenty of people who played video games for a living - I used to, I was a game tester. They were still "losers". They were just getting paid to do their addiction. Getting paid to do your addiction doesn't make you not an addict.
It can be difficult having friends who have unbalanced lives; if you become too close to them, your own life becomes unbalanced. My own experience and what I think the OP is talking about.
I have plenty of friends who do things I wouldn't do, but their lives are balanced, that's the difference.
Oh and IMHO, nothing wrong with hanging out with goths. I know plenty and have known plenty and all eventually matured into well adjusted normal happy people with fairly ordinary lives. By the 30s most are still not goths, or if they're still into goth subculture they have fairly ordinary 9-5 lives the rest of the time.
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