 Another LOA approach.
I've got a story that might help shed light on the LOA aspect of it.
I really, really wanted to get married to my bf. I had this thing about being married by the time I was 29! don't know why, I had set this arbitrary deadline and was getting anxious. Lots of friends were getting engaged too.
By the time I was 28 I had a house with bf, but he told me he didn't see the point in getting married. In his mind buying a house together or having children was a much bigger commitment to each other. He thought it was too expensive and as we are both the children of divorced parents we are both aware of its instability. In addition his cousin was getting married the following year, and he particularly didn't want to overshadow his cousin's wedding.
We argued, lots. I would bring it up 'jokingly' but there was always an undercurrent.
After one particularly big row I sat and thought about what I really wanted. If I had to choose between being with him and not being married, or not being with him - I realised I wanted to be with him regardless. I became totally at peace with the idea of never getting married, I completely accepted it as something that might never happen to me. I didn't tell my bf what I thought because by making that decision it had become a non-issue for me. We didn't discuss or argue about it from that date.
Four months later he proposed and we got married seven months later! (four months after my 30th birthday)
The thing is, you can't trick the LOA. You can't say 'oh I accept I might never get married' but do it to attempt to trick it into happening just won't work! You have to really, truly be totally at peace with the idea it might never happen. When you are so attached to the outcome, you can't let go and trust it will happen. I didn't know I was using the LOA in my thinking. I just knew what I wanted was a loving, happy relationship and that's what I focused on and got.
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