[pyrogen]

I disagree that just because you've been living together for six years, means you will have the same relationship after the wedding.

Marriage is not the same relationship that "living together" is. Marriage killed my perfectly functional "living together" relationship. Marriage is a ritual of extreme social power, one of the most powerful we have. We don't know what it will do until we do it! It's always a leap of faith! Once married, people will treat the both of you differently than they ever have. Your lives will change.

This is a LOA-themed community so I'll suggest something LOA oriented.

Manifest marriage. See yourself married after the fact (that is, the marriage, not the wedding), fully embody it in your mind, the sights, the sounds, the smells. How will you feel as a married woman. Feel the ring on your finger, et cetera.

If you want to be married, see yourself as married and live in that reality. "Step into" being in a happy, fulfilling marriage of the characteristics you want. He will either step up, or you'll meet someone else (and fairly quickly - seen it time and time again) who WILL. You will thoroughly impress upon your subconscious your desire, and you will start acting (very naturally) in a different way that will bring about the goal you have. You will find the resources inside to do what you need to do.

And finally, maybe you haven't seen him do the equivalent of crossing the continent to be with you, because he hasn't had to.