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So - he most probably suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. I have to admit that he is a very creative person who tries as much as he can use his highs for the greater purpose. But what he suffers from - is a chronic imbalance and I see all his personal development pursuit as a mean to overcome it. Heroic, sometimes successful but never reaching its real goal as he is avoiding to address his real issues.
This post about polyamory is a textbook example of deep denial and complex rationalizations, I'm not going to analyze it in details in this post because then it would become very long. But there is one thing in this word which can make you announce to whomever wants to hear that you live "consciously" and on higher level of consciousness that most of the people.
It is your defense against the harsh truth that your unconsciousness is leading your life instead of you leaving you less freedom than you ever realize.
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A psychiatrist diagnoses people after they come into their office, voices their concerns and possibly answers questions for a session or maybe a few.
Somebody who has written thousands and thousands of words about their personal viewpoint, their lives and opinions, even recording with their partner on the issue of concern...I don't see how this isn't as in depth as sitting in a chair and listening to them for fifty minutes. We heard how Steve and Erin interact.
The sheer amount of material Steve has presented is a searchlight into his personality, particularly as he talks about family dynamics and his past, etc.
Reading thousands of words directly from Steve's head and even his emotional reactions to various posters can allow a professional a better guess than one would give after listening to a stranger talk about their concerns for fifty minutes ...which is what medical professionals do all the time. BPD has a certain feel or tone as do other mental disorders.
Steve seems to make decisions only based on what he wants and his perceived needs.
Right now all this hoohah is simply to rationalize his desire to have sex with other women (otherwise I don't see why intimate friendships and activity partners have to be attractive, of the opposite sex, and provide sex also).
It's very good that Erin is always so fine with whatever Steve wants to do. Otherwise Steve might decree that she was impeding him meeting his needs and abandon the relationship.
Relationships with character disordered people tend to be challenging. They are often capable of seeing things from only one point of view, theirs.
(I decided no need for credentials, it's take what you want of this opinion and leave the rest)