Oh, I also give simplified answers, so don't worry, I get your point.
The answer to your question is yes, I already love and accept them (in a nature-genetic kinda way) for who they are, eventhough all that comes out of me in front of them is the opposite. Who we are together is a mess that I feel unable to transcend and I wonder if it's really neccesary to have such a relationship.
I know some people who gave it up with their families and have only neccesary helloes and Marry Christmases, completely at peace.
You are right about relationships being early set on. I think they're terrified with me 'unseting' them with my freedom. I actually think they're frightened of me, so I better not explain myself to them.
I think it gets down to respect. I lost it for them, therefore, they can't have one for me, and gaining it again is not on the menu. We'll see what are others' experiences.
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