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Originally Posted by Daffy Duck  I do think it terms of higher and lower in certain cases....
As an example, if I go outside and punch some random kid in the face, I would definitely consider this to be a "low" act. |
Yes, I get what you're saying. I'm saying: it feels better
to me to practice letting go of the judgement (high/low, good/bad), because it tends to allow a freer flow of understanding and love.
Evaluation feels better to me because it gives me more access to power than does judgement. It also gives me more agility in "thin-slicing" my moment so that I'm more likely to be safe, able to avoid potential face-punchers, and ideally to help a potential f-p feel a little better and make a choice that feels a little better to HIM.
Same thing with the OP question: if I judge the person who is not giving me what I "need" then I'm less free to evaluate why she's not giving it to me, and if it's even really true that I "need" it from her, and to be able to make a difference in feeling good for her and for myself.
But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you *shouldn't* judge or assign "high/low" "good/bad" ratings. I'm simply talking about works well for me.