I think YOU are the only person who can create value for yourself. It's about valuing yourself more than anyone else, even your soulmate, even your husband, and even if you don't believe it. This is the only way that other people will perceive you as valuable, when they see that you value yourself. This is not to sound snobbish or full of yourself, that would be false self-love, true self-love means that you understand the best way to make the other person happy and feel loved is if you feel happy and loved. If your mate is acting cold, I think the best thing to do is to decide if you want someone like that, and hopefully you will believe that it is behavior that you don't deserve. This attitude change will get him to either act up quickly, when he realizes that he might lose you with his indecision, or that maybe you two just aren't right for one another at this time. Either way, it is for the best, and it will be a completely honest moment, no games needed. In my opinion, games are easily seen through and are the trademark of insecurity which would be divisive to your being of complete self-love.
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