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JaredR · 01-07-2009, 12:19 AM

I understand that most teenagers are unkind. But it still hurts to experience it.

I made two new friends this year. I will call them Marie and Anthony. Marie invited me to work on a service learning project with her and Anthony. The project was not that interesting to me, but I said yes anyway to encourage our friendship. We met in October to make plans, but nothing happened for a long time because Marie was waiting for the grant money to come in.

Finally, today, Marie and I were eating lunch with one of the school librarians (we do this sometimes to plan our book club meetings). Before we left, Marie told the librarian, who is also a service learning advisor, "Anthony and I are meeting at my house tonight to work on the project."

I felt crushed. I was not invited. We didn't talk about it.

I don't know why. Why was I excluded like this? I am not as concerned about the project as I am concerned about how thoughtless Marie seemed to be. I feel like we're too early in the friend stage for me to call her out on it, but I don't know how to react.

Maybe I am being too sensitive?

01-07-2009, 12:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
JaredR Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 274	Thoughtlessness I understand that most teenagers are unkind. But it still hurts to experience it. I made two new friends this year. I will call them Marie and Anthony. Marie invited me to work on a service learning project with her and Anthony. The project was not that interesting to me, but I said yes anyway to encourage our friendship. We met in October to make plans, but nothing happened for a long time because Marie was waiting for the grant money to come in. Finally, today, Marie and I were eating lunch with one of the school librarians (we do this sometimes to plan our book club meetings). Before we left, Marie told the librarian, who is also a service learning advisor, "Anthony and I are meeting at my house tonight to work on the project." I felt crushed. I was not invited. We didn't talk about it. I don't know why. Why was I excluded like this? I am not as concerned about the project as I am concerned about how thoughtless Marie seemed to be. I feel like we're too early in the friend stage for me to call her out on it, but I don't know how to react. Maybe I am being too sensitive?