Stay Away From The Rules!!!!
Please for the love of god, put the book down and move away slowly.
Do you really want to end up with a pushy guy who won't take no for an answer?
You were wondering how it would work on someone with low self-esteem. It wouldn't. I met a lovely sweet guy at a party a few years ago, and a couple of days later he called me and asked me out that evening. I said no. I wasn't play the rules on him. It was a genuine reason. I was decorating my bedroom at the time and it was the only chance I was going to get as my housemate was away and besides which I was covered in paint! I explained this and said that I would like to go out another time and bless him all he said was 'so you'd rather watch paint dry, than go out with me?' in a mournful tone and that was that and he never called again.
The rules has it's place in saying 'don't be too available' for a man - I agree. No-one wants somebody too clingy - male or female. But don't follow it to the letter for goodness sake!
I agree with Pequod. The reason I said you needed space too, was that you need to do some introspection about why you choose the men you do. You said you weren't over your ex properly yet. Well then your not really available for another relationship until you've processed that one otherwise you're bringing all kinds of baggage into the relationship that doesn't belong in it.
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