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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  Clearly he is confused and frustrated with a lot of things in his (past) life. It has absolutely nothing to do with you, it's all about him. You can't make him work through all this faster than he is willing and able to do...
All you can do, really, is decide whether you want to stay or go.
Either you stick with him until he does come around (if he does) or you leave to pursue other relationships that are more in line with what you would like to have. Those are your options. You cannot expect him to be available for a committed relationship right now, because he has a lot on his plate that needs solving (at least in his mind). |
I would say this is pretty darn spot on advice from Jim.I had a dating situation with a fine woman recently that had to end on both of our sides. In both cases that which we were dealing with had NOTHING to do with the other..It is not really pleasant that it had to end but in the end it really makes the most sense. There is no point in being with someone if they can only give a little bit of themselves.. I know that the possibility exists that we can start up again but I am not hanging my hat on it...Be his friend let him be. If he wants to be with you he will, if not its really ok. I find that it is best to not put so much importance on another.. and if you cannot be with him there is probably something that you can work on in yourself...The people you attract in life are your mirror. Hope this helps good luck G