I let go of a couple who I was fairly close to last year. I must say in retrospect I behaved poorly with regards to this. I was pretty direct with them and told them exactly how I felt, but did say I would work with it with them. It has not turned out to be the case.. I have not been allowed in..I definitely think In telling the truth so deadpan and honestly is where I went wrong. A lot of people are uncomfortable when they hear the truth..I do not necessarily think its ok to lie but being fully upfront with people only takes your concerns into consideration and not the other persons..Best to think about how they would want to hear it based on what you know about them.I can say though that I do not really miss them too much at all.It was the right move.. I used to be totally drained and negative after I met with them. If I had to do it all again, I would be a lot gentler and let them go in a more loving manner. Live and learn.
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