In the long run, it doesn't matter much how you choose to do it. There's a coupla things to keep in mind: Do you want to avoid a confrontation or argument, or does it not matter to you? Do you recognize that she'll likely be talking about you behind her back? Do you have any other mutual friends who you care the opinion of? If you write an email, keep in mind that this may be used as evidence of your "badness" to others, so be careful what you write.
None of that stuff has to matter and especially none of that is to be scared of. It doesn't matter much to me cause I know I can hold my own against the attacks of someone, socially. That all said, they're risks you might want to consider, especially the confrontation one and figure out how to minimize it.
IMO, just do it any way. I'm getting the impression you don't actually need the advice and you're just looking for support. In either case, just do it. I'd prolly just be talking on the phone and say, "hey, listen, we've had a lot of fun times in the past two years. We've had some fun times especially when you did that thing, you're a good person. However, I've found myself changing and I feel more and more out of touch with you. I feel its time to move onto the next chapter of our lives filled with wonderful friends and adventures. OK? Have a good rest of your life!" Bye.
This is a good step! Draining friends can really ruin you. Good luck and good on you for havin th courage to do this!
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